Life in a fishbowl

Growing up as a preacher's kid, I was aware of the subtle differences between myself and my friends. It wasn't that I saw myself better than them; I did not see my family as somehow special because of who Dad was; the subtle difference was that my dad in his particular vocation had a platform from which comical, humorous, slightly embarrassing anecdotes of my childhood might find their way to anywhere from 75-125 pairs of ears (+or-). These 'sharings' were not a regular part of the Sunday morning proclamation, and there was never anything overly 'awkward' - (the most was when I heard how I got dizzy when I closed my eyes while praying). For the most part, no biggie - I'm not in therapy as a result of my life in the fishbowl of the pastor's family (although I may be abnormal in this fact.)

As scarred as I'm not from this, I am at least sympathetic to the dynamic possibilities of abusive over-sharing - that now as a preacher myself, I've (on occasion) come and apologized to my kids for some momentarily lapse of reason that might view the kids as simply one extended sermon illustration.

With that set-up, let me delve into the heart of my question: Having perused many blogs, websites, lurked on social media sites, read folks postings about their work, their hobbies, I've observed that an all too recurrent theme is one of 'family' - primarily the kids. Now, don't get me wrong; I'm all for sharing about the kids, the fun things they do and great people they are (and the better people they try to become); however, many (a majority?) of the writings, blogs, informative offerings recount less-than-flattering anecdotes about behavior, attitudes, temper-tantrums, potty training, etc.

My curiosity wonders what's the potential when, 5, 10, 15, 2 years from now, while 'googling' their name, a child (no particular child in mind) happens across the blog, the writing, the online diary of their life (though not of their making), and realizes that it's been shared with (not 75-125) millions dare I project billions of people, and that what's been shared is not simply the 'good stuff', the flattering, affirming, fun stuff - but the less than flattering anecdotes about behavior, attitudes, temper-tantrums, potty training etc. - How will the upcoming generation respond to this? Will they see it as an invasion of their privacy? Will they come back to us as parents and exclaim, "How could you?!" Will they subtly decide that the uber-connectivity their parents observed is not gonna work for them? Will they feel betrayed? Or will they be so accustomed to this newly minted social-media world that it won't faze them in the least?

I don't know; I can only speculate based on my own limited experience of life in a fishbowl?

What do you think?

The Blank Slate

New Year’s Eve, for much of American society (it seems), provides an opportunity, the venue (dare I say an excuse?) to take one particular aspect of their life – and commit to making a change for the better. It may be a physical change such as exercising, dieting, or being better attentive to one’s health conditions. Maybe it’s an attitudinal change that one seeks, and so we see the commitments to be nicer, to love more, to embody thankfulness and appreciation. There are innumerable New Year’s Resolutions that people take on each year.

Why do we choose the coming new year to embark on these life changing endeavors? There is something of a mystique to the coming of January 1, beyond that sense of pride when we correctly write the new year’s date on our checks. There’s something about the newness, the freshness, that sense of a clean slate on which we might write anew some small aspect of our lives. What newness, what fresh outlooks will you write in; what old habits, what outdated attitudes will you write out of this coming year?

But by saying ‘small aspect’ I certainly do not impart any lack of significance. For simply recognizing the gift this opportunity is (to be and do better) carries great significance. It signifies that the ‘who’ we have been does not define the ‘who’ we are to become. Upon that blank slate, upon which you may write in that new sense of who you are – who are you becoming? What criteria will we utilize in determining who we should become?

Whatever the rational for the desired change, whatever the criteria for who the ‘new me’ should be, the coming New Year provides both the motive and the opportunity, and there is safety in numbers to set out and try something new: ‘everybody’s doing it.’ But no sooner do we get started in fulfilling these ‘New Year Resolutions’ that the stark realities set in: as ‘everyone’ was beginning them – so ‘everyone’ is breaking them – and feeling resigned to live out the rest of the year thinking “Next year, I’ll do better.”

But, that attitude does not accurately reflect life in the Body of Christ, the Church. Because, we need not wait until a change of the calendar to step back into that mode of living for the New Life, we need not put off until the next major date change to consider how Life could be better, and we certainly don’t need to live the next 11 months with the burden of what we were incapable of completing.

We live, moment to moment, 24/7/365 trusting the grace of God to pick us up from our mis-steps, dust us off, and send us back out to live into Life – with the simple admonition – ‘Be faithful with what you’ve been given.’ So, what will you do with the blank slate you’ve been blessed with in this new year? In this new month? In this new moment? What acts and attitudes of faithfulness will you inscribe into this New Life God is creating you for?

Blessings and Peace be yours in all this gift of New Life affords for you.

Rev. Mike